A Husband~The Ulitmare Accesory :

Post by **stilltrucking** » May 21st, 2006, 12:46 pm

in the looking glass | the real you
February 08, 2005
Sadi Ranson-Polizzotti

After all, after all of these years in the business, I realized just recently that I have become the very thing or person I once used to hunt and pursue - that is, the mentor, the reference, the touchstone, the person who I look at and say I Want To BE Like Her When I Grow Up.

How odd to see other women whom even I would admire - smart, beautiful, talented women, who want to be like me. It's a strange phenomenon to watch as over the course of several months or years, they take on various traits: suddenly they wear dance shoes with a t-strap and ankle socks. The hair is thrown into a hasty bun and held with a red editing pencil. The skirts lengthen and become darker; the tops are camisoles with a white oxford on top if in the office and nothing if not in the office. They become very Prada - because we all know The Devil Wears Prada and lord knows that it's my favorite and I love the simplicity of Prada. Even my face is Prada: simple, plain, freckled and surrounded by straight, wheat colored hair. What I am saying is that not only does my attitude and my approach to publishing become a thing to be emulated and studied, but my very being becomes something to emulate and to copy. I begin to see Sadi facsimiles in the office and it's flattering, I know, and I keep reminding myself of this and my husband reminds me too, but it's hard when these very same admirers would have my own husband in a flash if given the chance because that would be the ultimate score to make them me. He is the ultimate Sadi accessory, if a person could be such a thing.

How sad to see my own husband reduced to accessory status

http://blogcritics.org/archives/2005/02/08/171452.php

hester_prynne · Post by **hester_prynne** » May 21st, 2006, 2:24 pm

Her man reduced to accessory status...heh, that's funny!!
Cute too.
In a detestable sort of way.....

Hey Still! How are ya?
H

Post by **stilltrucking** » May 21st, 2006, 2:34 pm

Missing ya

I moved \\\

my new crib so much better feng shui

Large picture window looking out on my garden

Senior citizen's housing project.

About twenty old ladies for every old man

I feel like a stud muffin again.

Doing ok hester

thanks

hope all is well by you.

hester_prynne · Post by **hester_prynne** » May 21st, 2006, 2:51 pm

Wow! that move sounds cool!
Some lucky old gal there is gonna gitcha I just know it!

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

H

Post by **Arcadia** » May 21st, 2006, 5:05 pm

Prada, Sadi... who are they?

Post by **stilltrucking** » May 21st, 2006, 7:08 pm

Sado is:

About the Author
Sadi Ranson-Polizzotti has been widely published in both journals and newspapers and has written and contributed to various anthologies. Her poetry is widely published both in online publications and traditional print. She has worked in publishing her whole life and is presently an editorial director for a newswire. Her daily column can be read at the famous Cleveland Blogcritics or on her own site at

http://www.tantmieux.squarespace.com/.

Prada is an Italian company that makes high fashion high dollar shoes, handbags, and other women's accessories.
http://www.raffaello-network.com/raffties/prada.html

There is a move coming out about them.
The Devil Wears Prada
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0458352/

I hope that is helpful.

Post by **mnaz** » May 21st, 2006, 9:53 pm

How sad to see my own husband reduced to accessory status

Well, ummm, yeah....

Post by **stilltrucking** » May 22nd, 2006, 1:54 am

Don't misunderstand. I'm not saying in the real world this is what gives my husband his worth any more than the fact that all my life I've worn dance shoes with ankle socks defines me. It's simply that these are the obvious, overt qualities or things that are, some think, acquirable. To flirt with my husband as some do is to see for a moment what it is to be me. Now, some flirt with him because of who he is, true - but I was surprised to find that some flirt with my husband not so much because of him, but because of me - because of some fixation on me. I once had a woman who was so fixated on me, who rang me incessantly, pursued my husband for some kind of affair - emotional, physical, whichever - but at the end of the day, it became clear to both my husband and I had it was I whom she wanted to fuck, if not literally, then metaphorically.

Yeah I guess I have a tendancy to put women under a microscope, so many lifetimes now. I observe them from afar, some people here listen to the birdies, I like to listen to women. I like to observe their cruelities to each other. For example a woman writes about the boy who broke her heart in elementary school by kissing her best friend. But what about that little girl who was supposed to be her best friend. She wonders if it was an early lesson about boys? I wonder if it was a lesson about girls too and their competition with each other for boys.
Was her girl friend the innocent bystander?

Jolene, jolene, jolene, jolene
Im begging of you please dont take my man
Jolene, jolene, jolene, jolene
Please dont take him just because you can
Your beauty is beyond compare
With flaming locks of auburn hair
With ivory skin and eyes of emerald green
Your smile is like a breath of spring
Your voice is soft like summer rain
And I cannot compete with you, jolene

He talks about you in his sleep
Theres nothing I can do to keep
From crying when he calls your name, jolene

And I can easily understand
How you could easily take my man
But you dont know what he means to me, jolene

Jolene, jolene, jolene, jolene
Im begging of you please dont take my man
Jolene, jolene, jolene, jolene
Please dont take him just because you can

You could have your choice of men
But I could never love again
Hes the only one for me, jolene

I had to have this talk with you
My happiness depends on you
And whatever you decide to do, jolene

Jolene, jolene, jolene, jolene
Im begging of you please dont take my man
Jolene, jolene, jolene, jolene
Please dont take him even though you can
Jolene, jolene

"You have no idea how expensive it is to look this cheap." Dolly Parton.

Post by **Doreen Peri** » May 22nd, 2006, 2:33 am

'truckin... who are you quoting?

Gotta shut the site down for a bit...

spam bots.. ugh...

we'll be back online after i sleep some

when you quote someone, please indicate who it is you're quoting ok?

....

as far as a husband becoming an accessory, both of mine thought it was me who was the accessory... they hung me on their arm to be seen in public... other than that?

ugh

if that's marriage? who needs it?

lol

Post by **stilltrucking** » May 22nd, 2006, 2:39 am

the song Jolene is by dolly parton, the quote about the woman trying to fuck her husband is from the original post about husband/accessories and the little girl with the broken heart is you.

Sorry
sleep tight
pleasant dreams

thank you for all your hard work.

I got a shut me down for awile too.
It has been a sweet sunday, only downer was missing the sunday stream

Post by **Doreen Peri** » May 22nd, 2006, 2:48 am

Sorry, I didn't see the quote which you used quote marks around in the original post. I'm either old, blind, or it's in the link you provided which I never could load for some reason... it just stalled my browser when the link tried to load but yeah, I know, I'm old and blind, too, and the broken heart is me. It's true. I know.

See you when we get back. Almost 3am here and gotta shut myself down too along with the forums for a few hours. Doing my best. Thanks for the thanks. gnight

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