Thank You For Smoking

Post by **izeveryboyin** » July 18th, 2007, 2:02 pm

It has officially been 7 months since I quit smoking, the longest I've ever gone w/out that mean ole' nicotene. And this time, it really means something, b/c I've never wanted a cigarette more than now that I have to endure all the ups and downs of pregnancy. It will STRESS YOU OUT. I am wondering how long this is going to last. I've been on the straight and narrow for the last 7 months while I watched Nate guzzle endless sixpacks and glasses of wine. I have been on the straight and narrow while I have wanted to punch Nate in the face for being stupid or insensitve, or unattentive. I have been on the straight and narrow while being simultaneously unable to produce any kind of creative material whatsoever. I'd say I deserve some sort of fucking consolation prize. True enough, my major reward will be a healthy baby, but what about when I am drowing in the smell of baby poop with my breasts leaking milk, and my hair uncombed b/c I have to be a mother? Do I get something extra for that? B/c fuck knows all the women out there who have gone through the same thing deserve it. It seems almost unfair, the balance of male and female. First women start bleeding for five to 7 days every month. Then we grow breasts and are forced into cages called bras for the rest of our lives. Then we are the ones who carry the children for 9 months, and have to push them out of our vagina through 10cm of space. Once the baby is born, whether we breastfeed or not, or breasts are full of milk, further enlarging them and forcing us to put them in cages with absorbent pads in them. Then the period returns and the cycle continues. Men get hairy and can make kids for the rest of there lives while we are forced to endure menapause. Does it ever balance out? I wonder how I'll feel about myself if after all this, the first thing that I do when the left me out of the hospital after I have the baby is pick up a pack of Camels and smoke the whole thing in an hour. Best case scenario, I'll never know. Worst case... well... let's not even go there.

Post by **Doreen Peri** » July 18th, 2007, 2:39 pm

I stopped smoking when I was pregnant both times. The stupidest thing I ever did was to start again ..... both times. I am completely addicted to cigarettes and I had broken the habit twice. I'm an idiot.

Don't start again. It will get better. The worst is over when it comes to withdrawal. Way over. Your stress is from the pregnancy, not from not smoking.

I'm TRYING to make my house a non-smoking house. I smoke outside, for the most part. Well, I still smoke in my bedroom but I'm rarely in my bedroom. I WANT my house to be a non-smoking house. I would LOVE to stop smoking again. Unfortunately, the only thing that made me stop before was being pregnant and at this stage in the game, it is impossible that that would happen again. My next baby will be a grand daughter or grandson. And not any time soon, either most likely.

Definitely breast feed! Bottle-fed babies don't get nearly the nutrition as natural breast milk. PLUS and this is a big plus, when you are breastfeeding, it causes your uterus to contract and get much more quickly back to it's non-pregnant size. AND you will lose the extra weight you put on from being pregnant MUCH more quickly! Some mothers never lose it. I suspect that this is because they didn't breastfeed their babies.

That's what your breasts are for.

Oh and the baby doesn't need a mom who smokes. Believe me, I've felt guilty for many years exposing my children to cigarette smoke.

Be smart. Don't start again. Breastfeed.

My sincere, heartfelt advice.

Thank you for NOT smoking. Your baby will thank you, too.

Love,
d

ps- "forced to endure menopause"? Huh? Nothing to "endure." Just a natural passing of life. Saves a lotta money. No more tampons. No more birth control expenses or delays.

Post by **izeveryboyin** » July 18th, 2007, 10:04 pm

Hey D! I'm definitely too poor not to breastfeed, so fear not. I'm pretty confident I'll be able to stay off the cigs for good, although I don't really know anyone besides Nate who doesn't smoke which is kind of a bummer... and he stopped for the same reason I did... the baby. Good luck on the smoke-free house. I hear LRod can really put away the ciggies. I've never felt right telling someone to stop smoking, so I guess I'll say that I hope you do, then I won't feel so alone. LOL. Is menapause as great as you make it sound? Aren't there still hot flashes and mood swings to be dealt with? Though I suppose not having a period sorta makes it worth it... that's what I tell myself whenever I start to get sick of being pregnant. And what do you mean the next baby you have will be a grandbaby? My baby is the first Studio eight baby. You have to claim her!!! Besides, she already loves your music. She still seems to quiet down when I play that piece you posted awhile ago. We need your calming talents! Thanx for the rallying words of encouragement. As always, I couldn't love you more D.

--k

Post by **Doreen Peri** » July 18th, 2007, 10:25 pm

Hot flashes are like cumming. Believe me! I LOVE them!!!! woohooo~!

Post by **izeveryboyin** » July 19th, 2007, 11:51 am

Well if that's the case, bring 'em on.

--k

p.s did you get my yahoo messenger invite?

Post by **Doreen Peri** » July 19th, 2007, 11:53 am

I haven't gotten it yet, no, 'cause I rarely turn that chat program on. To be honest, I keep invisible on AOL except for talking to my son. And I only use Yahoo messenger to talk to Clay because he's always in the back office. Yeah, talking on chat from room to room. Crazy, huh? I think so. Yep.

Post by **izeveryboyin** » July 19th, 2007, 3:51 pm

Having to use IM to communicate is a bit funny living in the same house, I think. At least you have enough space to be in seperate rooms. Nate and I live in pretty close quaters. And we only have on TV, so it's either stay in one room or... well.. nothing. The nursery is about the size of a broom cupboard. And our bedroom is a walk-in closet in disguise. But it's home I suppose. Anyway both my AIM and my Yahoo are under the screenname "diasporicnow". Lrod gave me your yahoo so if you see an invite from that strange name, don't be frightened... it's only me.

--k

p.s perhaps one day soon you'll be communicating on the phone. That'd be a step up, eh?

Post by **Doreen Peri** » July 19th, 2007, 5:53 pm

well clay and i have been living together for 5 years and both of us work from home so if you can imagine 5 years x 24/7, i guess it sorta makes sense to me why he's back in that other room all the time.

who would want to be around me THAT much?

lol

i'll boot up yahoo some time soon and accept your invitation.. thanks!

Post by **Doreen Peri** » July 20th, 2007, 11:28 am

I just launched yahoo messenger and i don't see an invitation from you, kayla.... hmmm

off to the ocean for a week

i'll check again when i get back

no internet while gone...

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