Lies and Damned Lies
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children have an instinctive sense for the truth
only later do we learn to lie
a lie is a deal breaker, like adultery or domestic violence
especially with a child
once you lie to a child
you have lost trust forever
and I'm a child, a poet
once someone lies to me deliberately
they have trouble getting me to return their phone calls
I've got better time to waste
only later do we learn to lie
a lie is a deal breaker, like adultery or domestic violence
especially with a child
once you lie to a child
you have lost trust forever
and I'm a child, a poet
once someone lies to me deliberately
they have trouble getting me to return their phone calls
I've got better time to waste
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Sounds good,children have an instinctive sense for the truth
I stuck a fork in an electrical outlet when I was pretty young. Screamed like hell, when the the adults came running to see what happened I knew i was in trouble so I said "A snake bit me." Standing next to my uncle in the hospital I peed myself, the nurse asked me who left the puddle I pointed to my uncle.
Hey you a father what the do I know about kids, I was just a liar from the git go, from the time I learned to speak. I
I am very interested in the father of lies. Nietzsche say the church fathers not above lying to save their flocks. THinking about mnaz in sunday school. Seems like we tell children lies to protect them.
But the lies that pollute us most are the lies we tell ourselves.
The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception.
Friedrich Nietzsche
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Children learn to lie because they have brains. And at a year-and-a-half when they learn how to talk, they realize that if they say "NO" to "Did you wash your hands for dinner?" and tell the truth, they will get a spanking or otherwise punished.
So their brain tells them if they tell a little fib, maybe mommy and daddy won't find out and they can avoid the punishment.
That's how they learn to lie. They figure it out.
At 2 years old they're really too young to figure out when other people are lying. All they know is that stuff they say can get them in trouble. So, in order to stop getting in trouble, they have to do one of two things.... either the right thing and obey their parents and wash their hands after playing in the mud pile before dinner or lie and say they did.
*shrug*
Psychology 101.
So their brain tells them if they tell a little fib, maybe mommy and daddy won't find out and they can avoid the punishment.
That's how they learn to lie. They figure it out.
At 2 years old they're really too young to figure out when other people are lying. All they know is that stuff they say can get them in trouble. So, in order to stop getting in trouble, they have to do one of two things.... either the right thing and obey their parents and wash their hands after playing in the mud pile before dinner or lie and say they did.
*shrug*
Psychology 101.
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my point exactly, doreen
it's a basic principle of operant conditioning
any organism will seek reward and avoid pain
read B.F. Skinner
we teach our children to lie, not only by the lies in our own lives, but because they are trying to avoid pain
the pain avoidance is natural
the techniques used to avoid the pain are learned
it's a basic principle of operant conditioning
any organism will seek reward and avoid pain
read B.F. Skinner
we teach our children to lie, not only by the lies in our own lives, but because they are trying to avoid pain
the pain avoidance is natural
the techniques used to avoid the pain are learned
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So you are saying we have to learn to lie?the techniques used to avoid the pain are learned
Sorry not being coy
learned from who?
I think it is instinctive
I think we to learn how to tell the truth
We have to learn to take responsibility for our words
I thought that was what you were saying.
I don't like skinner Clay
not my cup of tea
some prejudice on my part maybe vanity
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no! it's not instinctive to lie
it's instinctive to avoid pain
we LEARN to lie as a means of avoiding pain
where do we learn it?
we learn it from our parents
we learn it from our friends
we learn it from the world
one of the earliest lessons that the world teaches us is
that expressing our instinctive natural honesty will cause pain....often
it's instinctive to avoid pain
we LEARN to lie as a means of avoiding pain
where do we learn it?
we learn it from our parents
we learn it from our friends
we learn it from the world
one of the earliest lessons that the world teaches us is
that expressing our instinctive natural honesty will cause pain....often
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truck, I was averse to Skinner at first
I went to school in a hotbed of behaveiorlists at Denton
and being the contrarian that I am I was resistant
then I realized that psychology was voodoo
but the closest thing to science about psychology was called behavioralism
you can show actual results, it's provable and it works
I don't wanna get all Clockwork Orange on you here, but read Beyond Freedom and Dignity by Skinner.
I went to school in a hotbed of behaveiorlists at Denton
and being the contrarian that I am I was resistant
then I realized that psychology was voodoo
but the closest thing to science about psychology was called behavioralism
you can show actual results, it's provable and it works
I don't wanna get all Clockwork Orange on you here, but read Beyond Freedom and Dignity by Skinner.
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