Which is most powerful social instrument?
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Which is most powerful social instrument?
Which is more powerful as a social instrument?
1. Please
2. Thank You
3. I'm sorry
4. Up Yours, buddy
Please ignore the first please, or the second one, if you please
1. Please
2. Thank You
3. I'm sorry
4. Up Yours, buddy
Please ignore the first please, or the second one, if you please
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The French
LR:
I have to go with the (ze) French here. They have the best way to set Americans and English up:
"Ce depend . . ."
("It depends")
--Z
I have to go with the (ze) French here. They have the best way to set Americans and English up:
"Ce depend . . ."
("It depends")
--Z
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oh fuck
I can't get this damned poll thing to work
this is my fourth try
this is my fourth try
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after hanging out with a hundred teachers or so for 2 days straight, i can say that "thank you" does em good. There's nothing quite like a word of appreciation to motivate people to give on giving of themselves.
As for me, i hear 'thank you's' rarely enough that when a student says it, i listen.
My man says it with a twist of American, so i can't take him seriously ('thank you, dear'... in a slightly new England great grandmotherly tone)
not sure if anything like this question is possible to generalize. It truly depends on the culture in which one's dwelling.
j
As for me, i hear 'thank you's' rarely enough that when a student says it, i listen.
My man says it with a twist of American, so i can't take him seriously ('thank you, dear'... in a slightly new England great grandmotherly tone)
not sure if anything like this question is possible to generalize. It truly depends on the culture in which one's dwelling.
j
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up yours, aussi
I'm cracking up. I'd go with "up yours, buddy" but you didn't include it in the poll, Lightning Rod! How could you be so remiss?
Seriously, I'm going to part with the crowd here and vote for "I'm sorry", provided it's sincerely meant. I think it's lost value over the years because:
1) It's not done right. "I'm sorry you feel that way" or the variations I've heard, is not an apology! It's not taking responsibility for anything.
2) It's used as a business/customer service ploy, and in that case it usually has no meaning whatsoever.
3) People say it to get something done, or to mend personal fences, without making the corresponding effort to change.
However, IF an apology is made after serious self-examination and with intent to correct the error, then it's the best thing going.
"Thank you" --what does THAT mean? Again, if it's sincere, a lot, but I doubt it has the power to effect social change or mend broken relationships, and "I'm sorry" does.
Now I'm going to try to cast the vote ...
Seriously, I'm going to part with the crowd here and vote for "I'm sorry", provided it's sincerely meant. I think it's lost value over the years because:
1) It's not done right. "I'm sorry you feel that way" or the variations I've heard, is not an apology! It's not taking responsibility for anything.
2) It's used as a business/customer service ploy, and in that case it usually has no meaning whatsoever.
3) People say it to get something done, or to mend personal fences, without making the corresponding effort to change.
However, IF an apology is made after serious self-examination and with intent to correct the error, then it's the best thing going.
"Thank you" --what does THAT mean? Again, if it's sincere, a lot, but I doubt it has the power to effect social change or mend broken relationships, and "I'm sorry" does.
Now I'm going to try to cast the vote ...
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