thanks sooze
he tells me carries them because he would rather have them and not need them than need them and not have them...
doesn't matter...they're concealed weapons here, and given his propensity to get wasted in public places, it's only a matter of time before he gets found with them and gets charged
it's my job to protect him from himself, no matter how hard he fights it
when i found them the first time, i gave them back and told him not to bring them back into the house
and he did, so i turfed them
of course the big issue in his mind is the invasion of privacy issue, which is, of course, what this whole thread was about...i've gotten excellent responses, which have served to solidify in my mind that i did the right thing, although nagging doubt remains...i doubt i'll ever get rid of that, but i had to do it, or so my gut told me
last night he was moving out in the morning....half an hour ago he left, without his bags, to quit school and find a job
he's not leaving yet...i know this....he may split for a few days, which is nothing new...my sense is he's trying to punish us (it's working!)
but he's waiting me out...all he's got to do is tough out 5 days, then i'm gone, and he'll be back to normal trying to ride roughshod over his mother, which will work for him for a while, but not in the long run, i think
so, a night full of crying in my and mother's bedroom...the fact that he turns 18 tomorrow sure doesn't make it any easier
but i fully appreciate he's going to have to learn things himself now...it is clear he won't listen to me, as i didn't listen to my father at his age (actually, at his age i was already moved out for a couple years....he must be a slow developer)
humour....yes
