"The Desert", part 3

[Nazz]

I fought with my dad tonight. Neither him or I saw it coming. Maybe you could say it had been building for a while, as things do. I basically told him to get the hell out of my face and respect my opinion, but called him later. About an hour later. I can't turn my back on him, and the whole thing remains a bit of a mystery to both of us. I have my reasons, and so does he. He has seen more of the world than me and I should respect his wisdom.

[saw]

it's all about giving up control.....as soon as you do, you are free,
you will never be disappointed that someone didn't behave like you wanted them to.......of course, easier said than done....ego is a motherfucker......I too have been spending a lot of time with my dad, which in my case has gone pretty well, he's been telling me so many stories that I never heard before...important stuff to me about our family, etc......he has a sense of his mortality, I think, and has opened up considerably.......

[Nazz]

Words of wisdom, Steve. And I thank you for them. It's only been recently that more details of his (peripheral) service in the Korean War have surfaced. And the conversation has been more positive than negative in general. I personally believe it's possible to honor the sacrifices of those who served, particularly in that era, while refusing to endlessly glorify and rehash the grim spectacle. Yes, I can be a contentious SOB on that issue-- on that one issue over anything else, I suppose. Something I need to work on? Probably. And the argument wasn't even really an argument-- just some random flashpoint, it seemed. Anyway, I don't think I'm telling too much here. I hope not. I think my comments are respectful enough. We all have to deal with these sort of issues, don't we?

[hester_prynne]

I'm glad you called him.
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[Nazz]

So am I.

I think mostly good has come and will come out of the whole thing.

[mtmynd]

it's all honest and that is good.