Studio8 - Uniting the Arts

You can be nice, be kind, be sweet,
be helpful to old ladies on the street,
do good deeds for those who need them,
bandage the wounded when they bleed,
treat your fellow citizens with honor
and grace, face their troubles
elbow-to-elbow, take their side,
defend their show, give them a ride
quid pro quo, prop them up when
they're gonna fall, call in reinforcements,
loan them bread, make sure they're praised
and daily fed, loan a shoulder, an ear,
a rational head ....

But be aware, let me make this clear,
if you express an opinion they don't
want to hear, they're going to decide
they don't like you.

Once it's spoken, once it's said, if they
get riled up and start seeing red, there's
not much you can do at that point, friends,
there's nothing I can recommend.
Speaking your mind is a touchy domain,
someone won't like it, they're bound to
complain especially if what you say is true,
if they don't want to hear it, they turn on you.
Oh well. What can you do? So what?

There's only one choice the way I see it.
Say what you feel or shut the fuck up.

you said it

we all got issues

we could all use a friendly word now and then

The trick is to know what we feel

What we are truly feeling.

That...is definitely what I'm feeling as of late. Thank you.

Knowing how we feel is a good idea. Whether to speak what we feel is another question. I try to do it tactfully and kindly but I have a very hard time NOT doing it. Keeping my mouth shut and not speaking what I feel is very difficult for me. I don't know why. Is it a good thing to speak? Or should I just shut up? What's wrong with saying what I think or feel? Maybe I should just keep that stuff in my head instead of vocalizing it. Somehow it feels more healthy to say it aloud, though. I donno. These were the questions running through my head when I wrote this.

Thank you both for reading my poem. I know it's a poem 'cause it rhymes and everything. LOL

if there was an old adage that said:
words speak louder than action
then saying what's on your mind
could quite possibly favor you and the
the one you are speaking to...
however the old adage still claims:
action speaks louder than words
indicating that's a pretty good adage
even though it, too, is only words.

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i love john mayer.... thanks!

Like most things, maybe it's about trying to find some sort of balance.

What I tell myself is that I won't keep it all inside-- i don't think that does much good-- but I should also try to "choose my spots" as "wisely" as possible. The other thing I tell myself is that conflict is inevitable if one has any significant degree of world interaction, in person or online, and conflict is not necessarily something to be feared or depised but "kept in realistic perspective" as much as possible. I suppose these thoughts represent "ideals" of mine-- things I don't always live up to, of course.

Far as I can see, what stops us the most from saying what we really feel is the lack of an outlet, or a fear of losing an outlet. If one is all bound up from having a complete lack of release, one is bound to explode in some way, worse than better. But should we have someone or something to speak to, and we know or think what we say could destroy that capacity...we shut up, even though we would eventually break.

In either case, you're aiming for hurt. You can't say what you want because there's no space to fill, or the space to fill will disappear should you try to fill it. Best we can do is swallow our pain and move on.