growing up
Posted: December 3rd, 2012, 7:43 pm
it seems like yesterday---when i had my braces taken off and went on a date in that chevy impala- when my father was drunk on the table yelling ' do i have your attention now'
when the streets of new york taught me a lesson or two- and new orleans zydeco was all up in my feet-- when my children were small and the italian aunties and grandmothers were right there with irons and sewing needles trying to teach me how to be a woman-and i just went to nigeria and watched the cultures melt in my mind on the beaches of badagry while my son climbed cocanut trees-and then when they were young men- and i sat on my sons jacket in a hotel room and told him- 'if i press it for you, never tell anyone you saw me ironing'
my friend -an artist kathleen warned me 'never tell anyone you know how to do anything, they will expect it from you'
she was right'
all the women i knew, the elders. rushing past me- in a festival of the deer- all that love pouring from the eyes- and i stand here- unable to really give what they gave me- this minute-
if i could show you what they gave me- it would come as a sound that opened your heart and soul- of the deepest music- the touch of an innocent child- the quiet
of a stream with golden hands holding your face-in a way that reaches the deepest place you have-
the sweetness of a candy that rings you back to childhood- and the schoolyard= sharing that look with another kid= of' uh -oh we are in trouble''
smiles that cannot be put away- giggles that are so contagious that nothing can stop the laughter-laughing until the tears come-nearly wetting your pants=
i swear the women in my life have saved me a thousand times over-
the men were handsome, beautiful, loving- but different- loving them almost seemed like a secret and then brought out in the open- out where te winds of time blew all the leaves off my trees and i slept in the wintertime- while other portions of me grew- like a bear-the balance was always in the air-i wanted to share what i felt- what i saw- how it smelled- but all i could manage was the courage to keep on writing- keep on going- as experience like sweat dripped from my skin- and i know that these words will reach the ears that need to hear them- because i love you- and you know it- as you lay down on a feather pillow each night with whomever- i love you- because it is what they taught me= and it is the best i can do-
when the streets of new york taught me a lesson or two- and new orleans zydeco was all up in my feet-- when my children were small and the italian aunties and grandmothers were right there with irons and sewing needles trying to teach me how to be a woman-and i just went to nigeria and watched the cultures melt in my mind on the beaches of badagry while my son climbed cocanut trees-and then when they were young men- and i sat on my sons jacket in a hotel room and told him- 'if i press it for you, never tell anyone you saw me ironing'
my friend -an artist kathleen warned me 'never tell anyone you know how to do anything, they will expect it from you'
she was right'
all the women i knew, the elders. rushing past me- in a festival of the deer- all that love pouring from the eyes- and i stand here- unable to really give what they gave me- this minute-
if i could show you what they gave me- it would come as a sound that opened your heart and soul- of the deepest music- the touch of an innocent child- the quiet
of a stream with golden hands holding your face-in a way that reaches the deepest place you have-
the sweetness of a candy that rings you back to childhood- and the schoolyard= sharing that look with another kid= of' uh -oh we are in trouble''
smiles that cannot be put away- giggles that are so contagious that nothing can stop the laughter-laughing until the tears come-nearly wetting your pants=
i swear the women in my life have saved me a thousand times over-
the men were handsome, beautiful, loving- but different- loving them almost seemed like a secret and then brought out in the open- out where te winds of time blew all the leaves off my trees and i slept in the wintertime- while other portions of me grew- like a bear-the balance was always in the air-i wanted to share what i felt- what i saw- how it smelled- but all i could manage was the courage to keep on writing- keep on going- as experience like sweat dripped from my skin- and i know that these words will reach the ears that need to hear them- because i love you- and you know it- as you lay down on a feather pillow each night with whomever- i love you- because it is what they taught me= and it is the best i can do-