"pondering can be ponderous
arguing gets things out in the open
I apologize for thinking
I apologize for trying to start a conversation
I apologize for stating an opinion "
Okay, I'm down with your apology....and accept.
(You state that pondering can be ponderous,
arguing gets things out in the open. Doncha think arguing can be arguous too? Do you think there is a difference between ponderous and argueous? I must confess I think the tones each set, are very different, but i'm open to rethinking that.)
I respect your opinion on this, but mine differs in that I think that arguing closes doors, whereas a pondering approach leaves them open.
As for apologizing for thinking, trying to start a conversation, and stating an opinion, I don't see this as necessary. You have every right to do these things and you can do these things without insulting folks and inciting anger to get attention. I've seen you do this before and have been quite impressed with your ability in this area.
Apologizing sans sniveling is always the cleanest, quickest way to resolve mistakes, which we all make, I mean we are human. Once we take our egos out of the equation, apologies are easier to come to grips with, as to when they are necessary or not. Believe me, I've apologized many times, many times I haven't. It's about picking your battles.....
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