I find this continued, long, debating by the men (!) here at S8 over a women’s right to choose personally surprising! While I'm not surprised to see that happening in such a place as South Dakota … here???? oh well, never the less …
Here’s some of my thoughts …
Right now, in 2006 – women still have the right to choose, to have an abortion, or not ~ and personally, I want things to stay that way. But that’s what’s being activated to take away. It was a hard fight to get it in place as it was... I don’t want to see it go.
Is it perfect? NO. Can it be improved? Yes.
But that won’t happen, if the only thing people are willing to argue over is whether it should be reversed, or not. There are other things that need/can be discussed instead, other things that could use clearing up and clarification first: Things like …
A) Do we really have a “right” to life? And what does that mean?
Males & females – men and women, humans or any other animal did
not create "life" – all that’s ever done is that we create the
vessels that can contain life … but we do not, did not, create ‘Life’ itself.
(god aside) Life simple IS – Life has existed in some form before we (humanity) even came into being, and there is nothing to say that it won’t continue to existence in some form or another for millennias after we’re (humanity’s) gone.
So, when we look at this issue from this place, it kind of puts “us” and our self importance, in a proper (?) perspective.
And this distinction is important because …
B) To conceive, young – children – in truth, is NOT to give them the right ‘to live’ – but to be the ones responsible for handing out a
DEATH sentence to everything we concieve (conceived)!
If you really look at it, we’re not passing along “the right to
life … we are passing along our right to
death.
With no exceptions.
Our bodies are not ‘life’ – they are our bodies, and the body will die … no exceptions. Sex can create a body, but our body is not life. However, once life enters the body – from that point on, we’ve begun the process of dying.
Even a house, will get old, crumble and pass away …
Which brings us then to …
C)
Quality of life – and what that really means, from inception to ending.
Unwanted pregnancies create unwanted children and unwanted children are the most
brutely abused in societies across all demographics (past/present, race, wealth, religions, location).
Brutely abused … and mostly without anyone every knowing as well.
What kind of “life” is that for anyone?
What kind of way to die, is that?
What we are trying to create with these decisions?
What kind of lives, what kinds of deaths?
Next …
D) It takes
two – to make a baby.
So far, even in this debate, it’s primarily on the woman to be in charge of the ‘birth control’ – but the fact is, if “little jack horner” were “as properly dressed”
at all times along with “little bo peep” – nothing unwanted would ever be conceived – no unwanted pregnancies would take place, and there would be no need for abortions beyond the need to save a woman’s life, or because of incest, or rape.
So, when men start arguing as passionately over their responsibilities: for also being in charge of birth control of/for their
OWN sex – as well as their responsibilities legally, morally, and monetarily of child caring/rearing – as they do over a woman’s right to choose …
…
and there are as many – if not MORE – options for
men’s birth control as they are for erectile dysfunction … ahhhh, well then we’ll finally be getting some place on this issue.
And last …
E) Perfection.
The problem is never just ‘one thing’ – and Abortion is no difference … a small word, that covers a vast field of interrelating aspects, all equally important.
In addition, it’s impossible to have everything be perfect. We have to keep in mind that no law, or lack of one, will ever cover all this. But what happens if people become so idealistic that they aim for perfection – and then when that doesn’t happen, they want to throw in the towel, throw everything … just because things aren’t going perfectly.
Our we willing to accept lack of perfection as valuable - as 'okay'?
When we aim for perfection, we'll always fail. But when we aim for improvements –– a reachable goal, things turn out differently.
In the area of abortions, we can improve by expanding and working on what we already have in place – not by throwing it all away. And we can begin by asking a lot more questions …such as these...
How
realistic are the right-to-life goals compared with those who support choice? What do they have in common? Where are they in agreement, where are they not, and can we find a solution - or learn to live with, there areas where we aren't?
These are some of the other things that need to be included in all these decision makings processes.
800 abortions in one year in South Dakota alone – there is definitely room for improvement. I can understand why those who don’t like abortions are upset.
But repelling a woman’s right to choice is a backward move, a throwing the ‘baby’ out with the bathwater, as it were – it’s the wrong, and over reaction to the problem based on a false, glamorized view that things were better and simpler back then – but that’s not true… and that is what needs to be addressed now.
Looking at how all these issues feed into each other; quality of life, abuse issues, birth control issues, support issues, male and female rights issues – each of these have a part in what leads up to abortions … and without addressing all these issues at once, we’re just spinning out wheels.
The best thing we can do, when talking with someone who’s ‘anti-abortion’ is bring these other parts back into the whole, back into their awareness.
As well as realize that South Dakota is an extreme... so how much of one, and how much influence do they actually have, and what type of backlash will happen from this is yet to be determined. (Is being determined now.)
Now, is are our moment (pro choice) of opportunity ... If we can adequately show their unreasonableness that could work in our favor.
I could go on & on & on ... and some of my views are quit radical, and this has been one llllooonnnnggggg two cents worth, so I'll stop now.
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on a personal note ..
Personally, I’m a woman who’s fought long and hard for mine, and others, right to choose; I’ve also had an abortion myself … it was not pleasant. I did not choose it lightly. The father was involved, and while it was a joint decision – in the end, it truly mine. For good, or ill. It was the toughest choice I ever had to made – and I was lucky, he stayed through the process.
Yet without a doubt, in my heart, I know it was the right one for all involved, and yes that includes our child, but it took years of inner work to reach that place of understanding.
I realize that there are those who do no, and would not, agree with my choice. And that’s fine, that’s their right, and I can live with their disagreement; but what I don't want to live with again, is their right taking mine away.
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Now ~ an fyi …
It’s spring in California again, we’ve already begun receiving the first of many baby mammals and birds in the animal hospital (as January – 258 and counting animals so far…) – and we’re busy training a fresh new batch of volunteers. Which means, I’m getting busier, which mean – that once again – I won’t have the time to post and talk about things and such as I’ve had over this winter.
I’ve enjoyed this winter …
And I’m sorry to leave such a long posting, with so many different things in it and then do what amounts to ‘disappearing ’ – not staying around more to talk about things in depth with anyone who actually reads through it all.
But I’m not a fast typist and these types of postings take awhile for me, first I have to gather my thoughts together and then write them out. And past experience has shown me that from here on out I'm just not going to have the time like I have over winter.
I'm sorry, but I'm doing what amounts to a "post & run."
