This one hits home because nowI see that I have been solipsizing women. Or least my spiderlover.
"To reinvent her, Humbert must take from Lolita her own real history and replace it with his own, turning Lolita into a reincarnation of his lost, unfulfilled young love, Annabel Leigh. We know Lolita not directly but through Humbert, and not through her own past but through her narrator/molester's past or imaginary past. This what Humbert, a number of critics and in fact one of my students, Nima called Humbert's solipsization of Lolita"