oh bollocks! what a terrible phone call to recieve.
*hugs* to you.
Please heed the advice and wisdom of YABYUM & Glorious Amok:--
"hug your daughter, your man,..."
"death is miniscule ... life is beyond enormous."
phone call
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Whitebird Sings
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Dear Doreen
I add my love to that that has been poured out to you and your family...
What was his name? What was the name of this sweet young man that you have so well described... I promise that I will carry his name on my heart, in my prayers...
As you work to comfort each other as a family,
Listen to what your sorrow is telling you -
I believe
that
the things
that you feel
in these times
are answers
from Spirit...
including your cousin's...
move left, move right
and he is there
where you are...
Someone wrote...
"Your pure sadness
that wants help
is the secret cup..."
Peace and Love
I wrap you in these...
xo
WB
...and now, he is free to fly... but still we miss him... and it hurts...
I add my love to that that has been poured out to you and your family...
What was his name? What was the name of this sweet young man that you have so well described... I promise that I will carry his name on my heart, in my prayers...
As you work to comfort each other as a family,
Listen to what your sorrow is telling you -
I believe
that
the things
that you feel
in these times
are answers
from Spirit...
including your cousin's...
move left, move right
and he is there
where you are...
Someone wrote...
"Your pure sadness
that wants help
is the secret cup..."
Peace and Love
I wrap you in these...
xo
WB
...and now, he is free to fly... but still we miss him... and it hurts...
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Lightning Rod
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We had a death in the family this weekend. Doreen's young cousin Nick (22) died in a car accident. He was riding in a car with four other young men. Three of the five died. I had only met him last Saturday at a family wedding and again Sunday at a family reunion. He was a nice, vital young man. We talked about cars. He liked cars.
My point here is that random, senseless death happens every day. Sure you can take precautions, wear your seat belt, have a designated driver etc., but you can't predict the front wheel blowout on a curve next to a sturdy tree. It's sad. But what would be sadder is if we all hid in our houses and never ventured forth for fear of any of the possible dangers of life. I can't think of a greater blessing than to die doing what you love to do.
Thank you all for your kind words.
My point here is that random, senseless death happens every day. Sure you can take precautions, wear your seat belt, have a designated driver etc., but you can't predict the front wheel blowout on a curve next to a sturdy tree. It's sad. But what would be sadder is if we all hid in our houses and never ventured forth for fear of any of the possible dangers of life. I can't think of a greater blessing than to die doing what you love to do.
Thank you all for your kind words.
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Sorry for the depressing poem last night.
It's just that when I was 22, I flirted with death many times. I did drugs. I drove my car under the influence. It would have made more sense if it had happened to me.
My cousin's son's name was Nick. Nicholas. Like his father.
Nick wasn't a drug user. He didn't drink. He wasn't driving but they do not think the driver was intoxicated. They are investigating the accident. At this point they do not know what the cause was - driving too fast? Road conditions? Something that happened to the car?
Three young men died. One of the others is currently in intensive care. I don't know about the status of the other one. Several families are grieving. This tragic accident makes no sense.
Thank you Whitebird, Yabyum, Rat Bag, merlyn. Glorious and all replied to this thread and offered condolences. And Clay, thank you for being here with me.
I am very depressed. Yes, I understand that tragic accidents happen. But I'm having a difficult time with this. Poor Clay has to watch me cry all day and night. If it happened to my son, I would not be able to handle it.
It's just that when I was 22, I flirted with death many times. I did drugs. I drove my car under the influence. It would have made more sense if it had happened to me.
My cousin's son's name was Nick. Nicholas. Like his father.
Nick wasn't a drug user. He didn't drink. He wasn't driving but they do not think the driver was intoxicated. They are investigating the accident. At this point they do not know what the cause was - driving too fast? Road conditions? Something that happened to the car?
Three young men died. One of the others is currently in intensive care. I don't know about the status of the other one. Several families are grieving. This tragic accident makes no sense.
Thank you Whitebird, Yabyum, Rat Bag, merlyn. Glorious and all replied to this thread and offered condolences. And Clay, thank you for being here with me.
I am very depressed. Yes, I understand that tragic accidents happen. But I'm having a difficult time with this. Poor Clay has to watch me cry all day and night. If it happened to my son, I would not be able to handle it.
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Whitebird Sings
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Dear D... dear heart,
I,
and I am sure others,
did not experience your poem as depressing.
Rather,
I experienced it as the pure voice of sorrow.
I experienced it as words of love from the heart.
I experienced and shared your grief as I read your words...
grief as a mother, a daughter, a sister, a cousin...
a human who is attached to others...
a human who at some times did not always appreciate life and its fragility... but it seems to me that that is all part of what it is to be human... it is all part of the journey
I experienced your poem as you reaching out... and we reach back.
I experienced your poem as a gift.
I experienced your poem as that which you need to do as you search for answers in your grief...
I experienced Nick through your poem...
I experienced you through your poem...
and I pray that in return you feel our love...
Namaste
WB
I,
and I am sure others,
did not experience your poem as depressing.
Rather,
I experienced it as the pure voice of sorrow.
I experienced it as words of love from the heart.
I experienced and shared your grief as I read your words...
grief as a mother, a daughter, a sister, a cousin...
a human who is attached to others...
a human who at some times did not always appreciate life and its fragility... but it seems to me that that is all part of what it is to be human... it is all part of the journey
I experienced your poem as you reaching out... and we reach back.
I experienced your poem as a gift.
I experienced your poem as that which you need to do as you search for answers in your grief...
I experienced Nick through your poem...
I experienced you through your poem...
and I pray that in return you feel our love...
Namaste
WB
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Whitebird Sings
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Dear LR...
thank you for your words.
we all have stories,
different
yet
the same...
...at this time, we hold onto them for Nick and Doreen and others in the circle who love them...
...in another time and place, they will mean just as much ...for me and others.
thank you dear LR for sharing the deep wisdom that lives there within your soul...
WB
thank you for your words.
we all have stories,
different
yet
the same...
...at this time, we hold onto them for Nick and Doreen and others in the circle who love them...
...in another time and place, they will mean just as much ...for me and others.
thank you dear LR for sharing the deep wisdom that lives there within your soul...
WB
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Zlatko Waterman
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I am sorry, Doreen:
To hear of the loss of the young man so close to your thoughts and feelings.
A close friend of mine just lost his mother, but she was 80.
It's not fair one so young should die suddenly. Death is rarely fair, of course.
The reality of our own end shimmers before us when the life of one we love is extinguished.
From California where the sun is shining I wish you and Clay and the young man's relatives the strength to cope with this loss.
Sincerely,
"Zlatko"
To hear of the loss of the young man so close to your thoughts and feelings.
A close friend of mine just lost his mother, but she was 80.
It's not fair one so young should die suddenly. Death is rarely fair, of course.
The reality of our own end shimmers before us when the life of one we love is extinguished.
From California where the sun is shining I wish you and Clay and the young man's relatives the strength to cope with this loss.
Sincerely,
"Zlatko"
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I know how you feel doreen. I went through the lost of a cousin as well. He was young bright had everything going for him and then out of the blue. He gone from my life forever. I wrote this in honor of him.
I Remember Tim
Tim was cousin on my Dad’s side. We were almost the same age. We grew up knowing each other. He was Big and knew how to take care of himself. He played football went into the army. He then became a police officer. He severed to protect those in the community. He then married. Started a family. Bought a home. Settled into a Life of his own. Often I would be invited to his children’s birthday parties. Oh how we would celebrate together. I remember how he would say to me as I was leaving to go home. “Do you have a ride back home?” I would reply back to him by saying “Yes Officer I do have a ride back.” “Do you have one?” He would laugh at my remark.
But now I will no longer hear his laughter or see the life that he would have lived as those years go by. I now have only Memories of Him in my life. These I will cherish for the rest of my life. Tim I will always remember the good times you and I had shared together. May you now find Peace in your Life.
Your Cousin Dave
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I Remember Tim
Tim was cousin on my Dad’s side. We were almost the same age. We grew up knowing each other. He was Big and knew how to take care of himself. He played football went into the army. He then became a police officer. He severed to protect those in the community. He then married. Started a family. Bought a home. Settled into a Life of his own. Often I would be invited to his children’s birthday parties. Oh how we would celebrate together. I remember how he would say to me as I was leaving to go home. “Do you have a ride back home?” I would reply back to him by saying “Yes Officer I do have a ride back.” “Do you have one?” He would laugh at my remark.
But now I will no longer hear his laughter or see the life that he would have lived as those years go by. I now have only Memories of Him in my life. These I will cherish for the rest of my life. Tim I will always remember the good times you and I had shared together. May you now find Peace in your Life.
Your Cousin Dave
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I'm so sorry to hear that D. If you want, I'll put a lampshade on my head and dance. No, seriously, I really am sorry. It's always tough, but know that we're all here to be idiots and tedious intellectuals whenever you feel like making fun of somebody.
--k
p.s happy belated. I'e got excellent timin' don't I?
--k
p.s happy belated. I'e got excellent timin' don't I?
sometimes I just like to breathe.
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Why candles flicker in the wind while others go out. Why some burn on in the rain through all the pain, only feelings can explain. It is not easy to see the clear light they illuminated in our lives and grief is the fact that their essences is carried on in us. Heartfelt kinship and association we now must give to others so nothing is lost and it only goes. To know that sorrow has it’s own grace, it’s own meaning, if not to reflect on that distant place. The place we are all going to go. Where nothing is lost, but clearly understood is what we must embrace. If only to keep in mind we are here for a short time and live our lives with a greater meaning. To show courage we feel is disgrace mistaken for the realization the value of time we are given. It is the sunshine after the storm, the flower of our lost companion’s greatest purpose they left behind. If we only embrace what has a more meaningful lesson why we exist and others go on. We find a greater purpose to what we can not change and strive for a greater change in ourselves. Those deep sincere feelings should be given to all and not to just a few as a tribute. So when we go to that other place where all is clearly understood we will be known to have had a greater purpose in life. To truly love one another as if it were the last moment in their lives, and our own. Is the greatest tribute we give one another.
Your sincere friend
Your sincere friend
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merlyn.... that is beautiful.... I know you tragically lost your wife recently and it isn't easy to accept death... you have a lovely spirit and I am grateful for your condolences and touching words.
hest -
i'm devastated... I'd post the article about the accident from the Washington Post but I think enough is enough. The family will have a church service Wed and the funeral is Thursday. We will handle this as best we can. Thank you so much, hest....
hest -
i'm devastated... I'd post the article about the accident from the Washington Post but I think enough is enough. The family will have a church service Wed and the funeral is Thursday. We will handle this as best we can. Thank you so much, hest....
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The twilight darkens, the curlew calls
Along the sea sands damp and brown
The traveler hastens toward the town
And the tide rises, the tide falls.
Darkness settles on roofs and walls,
But the sea, the sea in the darkness calls;
The little waves, with their soft white hands,
Efface the footprints in the sands,
And the tide rises, the tide falls.
The morning breaks; the steeds in the stalls
Stamp and neigh, as the hostler calls;
The day returns, but nevermore
Returns the master to the shore.
And the tide rises, the tide falls.
The twilight darkens, the curlew calls
Along the sea sands damp and brown
The traveler hastens toward the town
And the tide rises, the tide falls.
Darkness settles on roofs and walls,
But the sea, the sea in the darkness calls;
The little waves, with their soft white hands,
Efface the footprints in the sands,
And the tide rises, the tide falls.
The morning breaks; the steeds in the stalls
Stamp and neigh, as the hostler calls;
The day returns, but nevermore
Returns the master to the shore.
And the tide rises, the tide falls.
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