Today my life changed.

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hester prynne
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Today my life changed.

Post by hester prynne » August 8th, 2006, 2:12 am

Looks like my daughter will be leaving me in a few weeks to go to a fancy high school on the east coast!

Aw Hell.

On one hand i'm joyous and grateful that she is getting this unique and incredible opportunity. They awarded her a scholarship grant which practically pays for everything. Same as they did for me when I attended high school there years ago.

On the other hand, i'm simply lost. It will be strange not having her here with me.

There'll be much ado about getting her ready to go in the next few weeks, and then, on the third of September, she'll fly off.

Her dad is going to take her there, get her settled in, see the place for himself. I totally understand that he needs to see where she is going to be.

I also know he will be well pleased, it's a fine, positive place.

I hope it's the right thing. It feels like it. Despite my already loneliness.
Despite these powerful urges I keep getting to hang onto her tight, not let her go......(aw crap, and then the eyes start "brimming" or some dam thing like that.....)

It's, you know, like, the best of times and the worst of times.....

Gulp.

H 8)
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Post by judih » August 8th, 2006, 7:56 am

oy, hester.

time does exist, after all
only when our kids grow and develop and seek newer days
do we see that time is an entity.

one daughter of mine left a few years ago
one son will leave soon.
Each takes a chunk of my heart. How dare they grow?

Another son, will be heading off to a soccer school in 10th grade
only one kid left

Yes, i've got one more kid to smother and freeze and refuse to let grow,
but they don't ask us.

It hurts - this stretching of the motherly heart.
but there it is - with nothing to do but hug them in our minds and cry to ourselves and our friends

It hurts.
But there it is.

i know.
Hugs to you, dearest mother T.

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Post by Arcadia » August 8th, 2006, 1:23 pm

kisses, hester!!
It sounds good for her!!!

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Post by mtmynd » August 8th, 2006, 3:01 pm

A father's story: When our #1 boy was given a scholarship to a college in Iowa, so thrilled were we all! I chose to be the one to drive him to his new place and help him move in his belogings that his mother so carefully put together with his assistance.

Upon reaching Grinnel, all was going along fine, the move was effortless except for one thing - a fan. The boy would certainly need a fan for his room as it was summer and the temperature was thick with humidity.

We left for a trip to the nearest Walmart, some 20-30 minutes away and picked up a fan and jumped back into the car for the return to campus.

All of a sudden it hit me... and hit me strongly - my son was on his own. No more mom or dad to advise him what to do and for myself, no first son to see and communicate with. The tears rushed from my eyes like a waterfall. I had no control over it. Embarrassed, I looked out the driver's side window hoping he would not see me crying, but my sniffling gave me away.

"It's alright, Dad. No big deal. I'll be fine..." he says before patting my arm.

"I know it, Noah. You're going to be fine." It was me that I was wondering about... but within minutes after the last tear was wiped away and the final sniffle was over, we had arrived back at his new dwellings. My first son was now on his own and I knew I had no worries. Yes, he was going to be fine. And I was proud of myself and proud of his mom for doing a good job of raising this kid. He was flying on his own away from the nest and life would be his to discover and he'd become whatever he chose to be.

The spiral of life continues and I'm grateful to be a small part of it.

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Post by Doreen Peri » August 8th, 2006, 3:06 pm

I'm sure you and her father made this decision because it was the best thing for her. I applaud you .... and I know it won't be easy. I have a hard time when my daughter goes to visit her father 5 weeks in the summer. I understand completely.

But this will be a wonderful experience for her!

PLUS, you'll come visit her on the east coast some time and hopefully it will be near here so I can finally meet you!!!!

Mother-to-mother... any time ya wanna chat about it, I'm here...

Love ya, hest! Hang in there.. it will all work out for the best for all!

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Post by Dave The Dov » August 8th, 2006, 3:49 pm

Yeah we're with you Hest!!!! So far away from you in school but do keep in touch with her!!!! :D
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Post by hester prynne » August 10th, 2006, 4:05 am

I savored each and every reply....
I so appreciate the encouragements.

H 8)
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Post by stilltrucking » August 10th, 2006, 4:56 pm

mine too hester
best wishes for your changes
if you are ever down in san antone
beg steal or borrow two nickles or a dime

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