Brief Reflection on Love

[Lightning Rod]

Unrequited love is the most difficult thing for me to handle. Nothing is as painful than to love someone and see that they don't share the emotion. I can handle scorn or opposition or derision or competition, but loving and not being loved is a hard and bitter dish.

But you can't blame the other one. They only feel what they feel. So, you must blame yourself. "I wasn't good enough." "I didn't do enough." "I did too much." "I wasn't smart or pretty or rich enough." etc, etc.

There are whole genres of music and literature devoted to this subject. Some say it is the only legitimate subject for poetry--unrequited love.

The commerce of love is just as baffling as any economics. Is it about giving? Is it about trading? Is it about stealing? Who knows? If love is like economics, it's all of the above and anybody's guess.

It's a plant not watered, a pet unfed.
If we are to progress beyond our teenage years
we have to learn that love is a matter of acceptance, not demand.

Poets are prone to fall in love with love rather than actual people. The actual always disappoints the ideal. I guess that's what makes poets.

[WIREMAN]

wired in love
you know I've
thought I was
a few times
but it faded
like a titleist
on a dog leg
par 4, me opening
up my stance,
weakening my grip
on the club, then swinging
a lil outside in and hitting
a high fade to the
middle of the green
10 feet from the pin
with an uphill putt.
You guessed it I miss the putt!!!!!!!!

[stilltrucking]

I said:
"Love stinks"
She said:
"Like a Rose"

[stilltrucking]

"all our failures are ultimately failures in love" I.M.

Too set in my ways
I could love a woman easy
I just could not live with one again.
Or she with me
Nietzsche said decadence is when batchelors live like married men.

But I admire those men and women who can co-exist
Homeboy and Diamond Lil fifty years together
Jitterbug and The Prussian princes of the hills
thirty four
Cecil and SooZen
long time there 30 years?
j and g another thirty I think
then we got the newly weds
like jimbo and susie que
eight years

the strangest marriage I know of that works at some quantum level I can not phathom
the bear and my little sister
he has married her twice now
and still going at it like the lockhorns after 27 years.
this last time for about 14 years





My personal opinion is that love stinks
I had to remind myself of that a couple of years ago
I fell for a womon on the info highway
just a truck stop girl but
I needed to feel something for a woman again
like Hemmingway in love
he said he always wrote better when he was in love.
But what I got was teen age angst
not making light of it
it was worse than painful
a dopey mopey feeling
Cathexis of energy onto the other
I felt drained
but happy too in a numb kind of way

I think it was a book called Reading Lolita in Tehran that made me realize that I was a solipsizer of love.

[joel]

Poets are prone to fall in love with love rather than actual people. The actual always disappoints the ideal. I guess that's what makes poets.

um, yeah.

[joel]

In love with Love are poets prone to fall—
idealized, perfected, no mistakes—
and rather Love than people actual.
I guess such love is what a poet makes
since poets tend to choose to seek Transcend
more often than Accept the Actual
since actuality too proves to end
all Love idealized at factual
accounts of infidelity, of lies,
of loss, of longing unrequited—
yet what of greater worth could Love surmise
to ponder? Hearts alone have dieted
on Love abstracted—verse on verse on verse—
should greater themes surpass, are many worse.