Gentleman's Agreement--the see-saw
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Gentleman's Agreement--the see-saw
Yes, I have a creative complaint.
I think that is low-yo-yo for people to make a post on a thread and then go back and delete it. It destroys the continuity of the thread. It renders other comments meaningless. It also borders on the sneaky and dishonest.
The see-saw is the cleanest metaphor on the playground. It's the physical expression of things like trust and cooperation. When someone deletes their comments in a conversation, it's the moral equivalent of getting off the see-saw when your partner is on the high end. If you've ever had this happen to you, you'll know what I mean.
But a complaint is worthless (or simply annoying) unless there is a solution offered.
I propose that there be a ceasefire on deletions. A gentlman's agreement. We won't destroy the continuity of a thread simply because we are embarrassed by something that we said. If it's going to embarrass you, just don't say it. It's such a Monday morning quarterback thing to do when you go back and change or delete something that you have said. The solution is to continue the conversation until there is resolution, which might be a clarification of what you said or an apology or retraction. But to delete the post (or a whole series of posts) just renders the whole purpose of 'discussion' farcical.
I think that is low-yo-yo for people to make a post on a thread and then go back and delete it. It destroys the continuity of the thread. It renders other comments meaningless. It also borders on the sneaky and dishonest.
The see-saw is the cleanest metaphor on the playground. It's the physical expression of things like trust and cooperation. When someone deletes their comments in a conversation, it's the moral equivalent of getting off the see-saw when your partner is on the high end. If you've ever had this happen to you, you'll know what I mean.
But a complaint is worthless (or simply annoying) unless there is a solution offered.
I propose that there be a ceasefire on deletions. A gentlman's agreement. We won't destroy the continuity of a thread simply because we are embarrassed by something that we said. If it's going to embarrass you, just don't say it. It's such a Monday morning quarterback thing to do when you go back and change or delete something that you have said. The solution is to continue the conversation until there is resolution, which might be a clarification of what you said or an apology or retraction. But to delete the post (or a whole series of posts) just renders the whole purpose of 'discussion' farcical.
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I don't know what you mean about payback or revenge
I have little time for either of these. If I do payback or revenge, I just kill. I don't mess around with baiting.
the only reason for my creative complaint was to make this community run smoother with a minimum of frustration.
Yes, I was partially talking to you. But we have all done this and it's not helpful to anyone, either the writers or the readers.
I have little time for either of these. If I do payback or revenge, I just kill. I don't mess around with baiting.
the only reason for my creative complaint was to make this community run smoother with a minimum of frustration.
Yes, I was partially talking to you. But we have all done this and it's not helpful to anyone, either the writers or the readers.
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haha, how did I know that you would make this point?doreen peri wrote:sounds like an agreement for you gentlemen
guess that leaves me out![]()
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I could have said gentlemen/gentlewomen, but I'm lazy
and the generic 'gentlemen' also applies to women
besides you qualify because you have more cajones than most men
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i'll be a gentlewoman for you doreen
would you like me in drag?
i delete double posts
here's a post i should delete
if i could just be complete
wihout the jazz of monkeymind
and mutant minds kind an beat
down beat and kind
west wind backstreet blues
but since i ain't so complete
jjust hallf-assed and too moronic
i can't delete and be harmonic
would you like me in drag?
i delete double posts
here's a post i should delete
if i could just be complete
wihout the jazz of monkeymind
and mutant minds kind an beat
down beat and kind
west wind backstreet blues
but since i ain't so complete
jjust hallf-assed and too moronic
i can't delete and be harmonic
[color=darkcyan]i'm on a survival mission
yo ho ho an a bottle of rum om[/color]
yo ho ho an a bottle of rum om[/color]
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